Communication is a huge part of my life, heck, it’s what I ended up studying for three and half years, it’s what I have a degree in, it’s my job!
I am constantly analysing every little encounter I have with communication, with the external and my internal world. Unfortunately, it has become apparent to me that more and more people these days only say what they think they should say as oppose to saying what they think.
Our daily lives are so censored and filtered.
We’re all so caught up in not hurting each others feelings that we all fall victims of meaningless compliments and empty hearted sympathies.
It’s quite sad really, that we feel like we need to censor our expression.
Often times I wonder if this innate ‘need’ for censorship comes from our inability to communicate effectively.
We spend so much of our time on our phones, texting and messaging that we miss a vital component of communication, over message our communication lacks tone, the same happens with face-to-face communication.
When tone is not present it’s very difficult to tell if someone is being honest, sarcastic, ignorant or something else.
Imagine a world where everyone said what they meant.
Imagine the simplicity… you’d never need to read into what was said, because it’d always be exactly what the other thought.
Because of the way that I was brought up, I’m a firm believer that saying what you think does not mean you have to be rude, you can say things in a gracious manner.
Yes, you will probably offend some people along the way, but no matter what you do in life, people will end up reacting negatively because well, people are entitled to their own opinions.
My parents always taught me to speak my truth, say what I think and “don’t beat around the bush.” Oh and also, if you think their opinion isn’t right, well that’s just tough.
You can’t change the way that people think but you can change the way that you communicate with people and their opinions.
You can stop being scared that what you say might be taken the wrong way.
You can stop feeling like you have to apologise about saying what you think and you can start to speak your truth.
If you think someone has been rude to you, tell them.
Don’t like the way you’re being treated? – Speak up!
Irritated about something that’s happened? – Say something!
Don’t just hang onto the feelings, without saying what you think, that’s when your internal environment becomes a toxic place to exist.
Saying what you think is a form of self-respect, it’s standing up for yourself and being proud of your truth.
At the end of the day, the only person’s opinion that should matter to you is your own.
If you feel disheartened and crumble easily when someone says something you don’t particularly like, that’s a reflection of your own insecurities.
Stop being a victim of the universe, stand up and voice your views.
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.- Harvey Fierstein
You’re a tough cookie.